One of the main topics I discuss with my clients is how do they know if the job or business venture they are about to embark on is right for them. There are many decisions to take and several aspects to consider, and the more complicated and busy our lives are, the hardest it becomes to get answers.
So in my conversations with my clients, I came up with the following set of questions to guide them in finding the best possible outcome.
First of all I ask them: what is the most important area of your life right now? Based on the answer, I articulate the following questions and the structure of the session.
- Is this new job or founding opportunity aligned with your life goals? If, for example, you want to launch a business but also start a family at the same time, it is important to understand how this will take place, and if it would be possible or enjoyable for you and your family to run both. In most cases, the client hasn’t really taken the time to think in depth about their life goals, so coaching helps them to truly understand their priorities and to do some soul searching around their values.
- Is this new job or founding opportunity sustainable and compatible with your current life situation? Imagine you are really interested in a role that requires travelling, but you don’t want to travel because of a health condition, family needs or any other aspect. You know it will be stressful and won’t work for you, but you still take it because you think you will figure it out. Very likely you won’t enjoy the role, you won’t perform at your best, you will feel stressed, resentful and tired and you will be out of that job pretty soon. When we talk about sustainability, we need to take into consideration all the aspects of the role, from logistics to self care and family/personal needs. If the role or the business has a mayor clash in one of these areas, it won’t work in the medium term. So unless you just took the role to make quick cash for six moths or less, it ends up in a waste of time and energy for you and the company. Not overlooking the sustainability of the role/venture is key, and it is important to not go into “I will cross that bridge when we get there” mentality. Because the bridge will be there. You are just postponing a vital decision because you are afraid of the answer. (Hint: if you are afraid of the answer it is usually because the answer is no. I challenge you to think of a time when saying no sooner than later wasn’t a good idea :))
- Is this new job/funding opportunity feasible?What’s your timeframe? This question is for the folks out there that need money in exchange of their time. Not all of us need to work for money, for different reasons. But if you do, and money is an important motivation when seeking jobs or launching a business, then you need to be very honest on the following:
- how much time per week do I need to work?
- how much do I need monthly? can this number be revisited?
- do I need to make all the money from the same job/venture?
- If I don’t make as much as I need, how long can I keep earning less for? How much less? Where the rest of the amount will be coming from?
- Is this plan sensible? Will I feel comfortable with this plan in three months time? Is my family comfortable with it?
- What’s my plan B if this doesn’t work out?
Of course, the decision can’t be taken in just one session, or in one conversation, but these questions help to face clients with their reality and with what they truly need. If you find yourself unhappy at work, hopping from role to role or unmotivated with any single project you start, I think you can benefit by answering these questions.
Let me know how that goes for you, I would love to listen to your experience or to your feedback and comments on this post.
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